Sahur kita... yum yum yum

Friday, August 13, 2010

Eventhough its already the fourth day of fasting, I have yet to break my fast with my immediate family. Instead my secondary family or should I call, my boys are my becoming more like my primary family. Taking care of their sahur and break fast have made me more appreciative of my mother for preparing for my sahur and break fast. All sort of acts you can witness. One of it is, boys' diagnose with ADHD finally sitting down quietly with their back slouched, boys who tends to either increase the brushing of teeth and/or going to the toilet. Anyway boys will be boys, just need the patience to be with them and guide them, insya'Allah.

Updates on HaNa preparation to marriage,
- Like in the movies or series on television,"Hajat kami ini besar, hendak memetik bunga di taman." On the 1st of August 2010 (Sunday), Hakim's family went over to Nadia's house to mark the start of our marriage process. The merisik session was filled with introduction of members from both families. The engagement date was set on the 25th of December 2010 (Saturday). The ceremony ends with a stumpous meal cooked by Nadia's side, Nasi Beryani.

The adat merisik (asking ceremony, or more literally 'spying custom') is the traditional Malay system for arranging marriages. When it is time for a young man to get married, his family will look around to identify a number of potential brides. Nowadays, the man might suggest to his family who he would like them to consider, and it may be that a romantic link already exists between the man and woman. Having decided upon one particular woman, the merisik, or investigation process, takes place.
For this ceremony one or more representatives (wakil) of the man's family pay a friendly visit to the family of the woman whom they have in mind as his potential bride. The visit is purely for the purpose of further investigation, and it gives the visitors the chance to see the woman. A hint will be given to her parents regarding the purpose of the visit, and their reaction will be assessed. The woman's parents may also give the visitors some idea as to whether or not their daughter would be interested in the match. The merisik does not constitute a formal proposal. Following the visit both sides can begin to think more seriously about the possibility or otherwise of a marriage.